Try what? Well, according to these "commentators" of my life, apparently having a no. 3 after a long gap is because I "die die" must try to get a boy *insert indignant look*
When I got pregnant 2 years ago, it was a complete surprise. We were definitely not expecting it as, well, we both aren't very young. I remember going to my gynecologist of 10 years and even she was rather surprised too! We were totally elated at this wonderful gift!
My No. 1 was then 9 years old and No. 2 at 6 years old. Definitely not the ideal age gap, I was told unceremoniously by quite a number of "commentators". Most of the time, I was then given a list of plausible disadvantages that I SHOULD expect to happen and how "ideally" I should solve them. Whilst I totally appreciate the heads-up, I am also very aware that each and every child is different.
When I had No. 2, I was told to expect all sorts of horrible things my "jealous" No. 1 would do. I was filled with dread, quite literally and because it was also time for her to go pre-school, I held her back, not wanting her to feel as I push her to pre-school because I now have a new "toy" - her sibling. However, when the time comes, I was completely taken by surprise! Not only had she adjusted perfectly to the role for a big sister, she relished it! She was always on hand to help and none of those horrid stories happened!
I digress...
So, why must having a baby after a long gap from my previous baby become a "die die must try to have a boy"? Why must I even want to try? It's funny as our reasons for No. 3 were more pragmatic than being tied to such cultural notions...
We were both more established in our careers.
We are more economically stable.
We both love kids (Yes, hubby included though he doesn't show so :P )
We both miss having a baby.
We both want to enjoy a baby all over again!
Weren't such reasons much better than "die die must try"? Moreover, the last time I heard, we as parents have absolutely NO CONTROL over gender - it up to GOD to bestow on us!
So, for the umpteenth time,...
NO! I did not "die die must try to get a boy"
NO! In getting a No. 3 I was NOT purposefully aiming for any gender
NO! I do not subscribe to the notion of MUST have a boy to carry on the family name
Hey, I can bet you there can be at least 100s if not 1000s of people with the same family name in this whole wide world. So NO, there is no such remote notion of carrying on family name.
I am eternally grateful and thankful to GOD giving me another chance to enjoy all the babyish goodness after 6 years. I took pains to write down his milestone on a daily basis, I enjoy his antics, cheekiness and cheerfulness. I learnt from experiences how to handle certain naughty acts and the very best of all, I gotten the chance to see how my 2 older ones blossom into young ladies with a heart for the family and their younger brother wholeheartedly!
